Then Almitra spoke again and said, and what of Marriage, master?

And he answered saying:

You were born together, and together you shall be for evermore.

You shall be together when the white wings of death scatter your days.

Aye, you shall be together even in the silent memory of God.

But let there be spaces in your togetherness.

And let the winds of the heavens dance between you.

Love one another, but make not a bond of love:

Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.

Fill each other’s cup but drink not from one cup.

Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf.

Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone,

Even as the strings of a flute are alone though they quiver with the same music.

Give your hearts, but not into each other’s keeping.

For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts.

And stand together yet not too near together:

For the pillars of the temple stand apart.

And the oak tree and the cypress stand not in each other’s shadow.

Culled from, ‘The Prophet’

Oni ‘Femi,

In the service of His majesty!



Wow! January is gradually winding-up! Whatever your plans are for this year, your ‘thought pattern’ or mental strength is going to play a very important role.

For all the time executives spend concerned about physical strength and health, when it comes down to it, mental strength can mean even more. Particularly for entrepreneurs, numerous articles talk about critical characteristics of mental strength—tenacity, “grit,” optimism, and an unfailing ability.

However, we can also define mental strength by identifying the things mentally strong individuals don’t do. There are about 13 list of things mentally strong individuals don’t do, at least for this article. Please, enjoy.

1. Waste Time Feeling Sorry for Themselves.
You don’t see mentally strong people feeling sorry for their circumstances or dwelling on the way they’ve been mistreated. They have learned to take responsibility for their actions and outcomes, and they have an inherent understanding of the fact that frequently life is not fair. They are able to emerge from trying circumstances with self-awareness and gratitude for the lessons learned. When a situation turns out badly, they respond with phrases such as “Oh, well.” Or perhaps simply, “Next!”

2. Give Away Their Power.
Mentally strong people avoid giving others the power to make them feel inferior or bad. They understand they are in control of their actions and emotions. They know their strength is in their ability to manage the way they respond.

3. Shy Away from Change.
Mentally strong people embrace change and they welcome challenge. Their biggest “fear,” if they have one, is not of the unknown, but of becoming complacent and stagnant. An environment of change and even uncertainty can energize a mentally strong person and bring out their best.

4. Waste Energy on Things They Can’t Control.
Mentally strong people don’t complain (much) about bad traffic, lost luggage, or especially about other people, as they recognize that all of these factors are generally beyond their control. In a bad situation, they recognize that the one thing they can always control is their own response and attitude, and they use these attributes well.

5. Worry About Pleasing Others.
Know any people pleaser? Or, conversely, people who go out of their way to dis-please others as a way of reinforcing an image of strength? Neither position is a good one. A mentally strong person strives to be kind and fair and to please others where appropriate, but is unafraid to speak up. They are able to withstand the possibility that someone will get upset and will navigate the situation, wherever possible, with grace.

6. Fear Taking Calculated Risks.
A mentally strong person is willing to take calculated risks. This is a different thing entirely than jumping headlong into foolish risks. But with mental strength, an individual can weigh the risks and benefits thoroughly, and will fully assess the potential downsides and even the worst-case scenarios before they take action.

7. Dwell on the Past.
There is strength in acknowledging the past and especially in acknowledging the things learned from past experiences—but a mentally strong person is able to avoid miring their mental energy in past disappointments or in fantasies of the “glory days” gone by. They invest the majority of their energy in creating an optimal present and future.

A very big thanks to Amy (a psycotherapist and clinical social worker). Join us in a fortnight for the concluding part. Don’t forget to leave a comment and follow us for updates.

In the service of His majesty!


9. Don’t overwork yourself-If you are already an overachiever, have been dubbed a “workaholic” or you are generally exhausted, then you need to slow down and break the habit of setting impossible goals for yourself in the New Year.

10. Volunteer to get involved with special assignment-The more you can help across other departments, the better. Leading expertise, time and effort to others will help you get to know other aspect of the organization as well as help you connect with people across the departments. However, remember that your current position and duties are the most important, so be sure not to bite more than you can chew.

11. See the big picture-There are many employees who only focus on what they’re doing which prevents them from seeing the big picture. You are just one piece of the puzzle and the puzzle isn’t complete until all of the pieces are in place. Find out what your co-workers are doing. By getting a better understanding of the big picture, it will become clearer to you why you’ve been asked to complete certain tasks. Additionally, it’s great learning experience which can help prepare you for a higher level position.

12. Invest in continuous learning-Many organizations encourage employees to go back to school and pick up courses that can help them do their job better, if you are pursuing an MBA, try to immediately translate your newly acquired knowledge into tangible action at work, as this can grab the attention of company decision makers and show them what you can do for the organization.

13. Ask the right questions-Aside from observing people at work, there is probably no better way of learning than by asking questions. Think about what you want to know before you ask about it and don’t ask so many questions that people will think that you’re taking up too much of their time. Of course, when you get answers to your questions, it could raise more questions but if you truly want to learn and better yourself, ask anyway.

14. Follow through on all tasks and commitments-One of the most important things you can do as an employee is to follow through on work commitments, do what you say you are going to do in a quality manner and remember the core values of your organization. Your co-workers and management will see a pattern of reliability from you, which should increase their trust and confidence in your work. Over time, this should translate into key leadership taking notice of the value you bring to the organization, and may lead to challenging, promotional opportunities down the road.

Pay more attention to details; stop complaining; become more of a team player; and go above and beyond. From an employee perspective, the more you show your dedication, commitment abilities and potential to your employer, the more it will help you when it’s review time next year. Doing better at your job can lead to more sizeable monetary rewards, as well as stretch assignments and promotional opportunities. Employers may think about where your skills and abilities can be leveraged around the work place, not just in your current position.
The better you are at what you do, the more people notice and the more opportunities may arise for you at work in the long run.

Have a most blessed week!

In the service of His majesty!


Work is usually a big part of you, no one has a perfect work life and there is always room for improvement. Most people aspire to be better at their jobs because it results in increase happiness and personal satisfaction. Most employees have had their year-end performance review at this point, and they now have a “clearer view of their strengths, weaknesses, and goals laid out for them by their employers.” Others will take time off from work throughout the year, work tends to be a big part of the year.

When you read ‘January 1’ on your calendar, it’s just a numerical and psychologically a fresh start. We spend most of our waking hours at work, so it’s natural that you’ll reflect on your work life and career from a broader perspective and strive to be a better employee in the coming Year.

Here are a few things you can do to be better at your job in 2014:

1. Anticipate your department’s need-Being a reliable source for your department leader and seeing opportunities for your department to improve are great ways to be better at your job. Take tasks, seeing this initiative often help them understand that you can handle responsibilities pro actively. and things will not be falling solely on their shoulders.

2. Get to know your boss better-Your boss controls your destiny at work so it’s in your best interest to get to know them better both personally and professionally. “It doesn’t mean you need to be friends with them, hang out or gossip with them, but you do need to learn what makes them thick. The more you communicate with your boss, the better it is for you.
“While you at it, get to know your bosses boss as we’ll!”

3. Assume success-Your positive attitude can be seen in your facial expression, posture tone and speed of your voice. Be confident in your work. You’re uniquely qualified to do exactly what you do.
Imagine that everything you contribute helps the bottom line. Even when things are dicey, you can challenge yourself to use setbacks as opportunities.

4. Study your organization-Your work place is constantly changing and you need to keep up with what’s happening now, most organizations have new innovations and ideas, it is important you get yourself acclamatize to them so that you are well informed and can discuss recent events and changes with your co-workers, supervisors and management. Information is power.

5. Always come to the table with a solution-Offering solution or idea is only half of the equation and many heads of departments feel that an idea without an action plan will only create more work for them. Share ideas with context and a clear path for implementation for the leader to evaluate. The more you present any issues with recommended solutions and then implement those solutions in a timely manner, the more the leadership team will rely on you and think about you for future projects and new responsibilities.

6. Find a mentor-Everyone needs someone to teach them the ropes; to guide them through their career, Teach says “find someone at your disposal that you respect and want to learn from” You don’t need to directly ask them to be your mentor, just keep the communication lines open and take them out for lunch once in a while. You can also talk to them about non-work interests as well-but when you need work advice, they’ll be there for you.

7. Improve your communication skills-One of the most common mistakes made by both managers and employees today, is that too often, both are afraid to come to the table and talk about underlying issues, fear of confrontation so overwhelming, but if you communicate boldly, more frequently, and honestly in 2014, and you are not afraid to work through conflict, you will likely reduce your stress and be a better worker. Too much time is spent on dwelling on misunderstood employee communications, which, if left unaddressed, eventually leads to conflict. And an ever-tempting, over-reliance on technology with its benefits of brevity and immediacy can exacerbate that.

8. Work harder and smarter-Some employees set limits and boundaries for themselves as far as the number of hours worked or how much work they’re willing to do. It’s important to go outside these boundaries and go with the flow, Having said this, working harder is not enough. The key is to be able to work smarter so that you’re maximizing your abilities and making the most out of your time.

Do your best to implement these tips..and watch out for the remaining part in a fortnight. Its going to be a hitch free 2014!

“Strength stands you out and what really makes you who you are and a capable being is your ability to overcome your weaknesses, turning them to your strength.” Tim Lahaye

In the service of His majesty!


We all dream of, and definitely works, towards achieving financial muscles at sometime in our lives, and getting a place along side the Dangote’s and the Adenuga’s (in the millionaires’ club). But are we all ready to do some of the ‘stuffs’ they do differently that placed them in that category…talk is cheap right?
Here are a few of what the rich people does differently, enjoy!

1. Articulate a goal and commit to it- Rich people think differently from poor and middle class people. T. Harv Eker claims in his book Secrets of the millionaire mind. “The number one reason most people don’t get what they want is that they don’t know what they want,” Eker writes
An ambitious target and a plan are crucial ingredients of financial success.
Warren Buffet, one of the richest man in the world, was once quoted as saying, “I always knew I was going to be rich. I don’t think I ever doubted it for a minute.”

2. Create multiple income streams- Whether its an ‘extra’ job’ smart investments or multiple properties, a diverse income stream will help you build up your fortune.

3. Live below your means- You might think that a massive mansion and luxury car are obvious signs of wealth, but the millionaire next door is more likely to be your nondescript neighbor with a beat-up sedan and modest home. Stick to a budget, make a point of spending less than you earn and stay away from debt.

4. Work like a millionaire- Unless you’ve inherited a fortune, wealth is most often a result of hard work rather than good luck.
“Are you willing to work sixteen hours a day? Rich people are. Are you willing to work seven days a week and give up most of your weekends? Rich people are,” says Eker.
“You’ll have very few, if any, close friends. You will not just have the time to nurture and sustain lots of buddy-pal relationships,” Stuart Goldsmith warns in Seven secrets of the millionaires.

5. Do something you love- Your hobby may not seem lucrative, but you’re more likely to put in the work – and more likely to think big – if you’re passionate about what you do.
Larry Page, co-founder of Google, thinks that it is often easier to make progress on mega-ambitious dreams. “I know that sounds completely nuts. But since no one is crazy enough to do it, you have little competition.”

6. Surround yourself with successful people- According to Eker, it isn’t uncommon for rich people to be viewed as bad people; there’s a perception that the ‘haves’ are somehow taking money from the ‘have nots’
But he says, “Successful people look at other successful people as a means to motivate themselves.
The road you want to get on is one many people have traveled before you-so talk to the millionaires that you do know. Find mentors, cheerleaders and role models among them and you’ll be that much closer to success.

In the service of His majesty!